MOTHERLESS DAUGHTERS MINISTRY INC

You Are Not Alone: Serving Motherless Daughters All Over the World

aka Motherless Daughters Ministry   |   West Chester, OH   |  www.motherlessdaughtersministry.com

Mission

The Motherless Daughters Ministry is a Christian organization dedicated to serving women who have lost or missed the nurturing care of a mother. We fulfill our mission by freeing women from the bondage of grief and loss through self-discovery, understanding how loss has shaped their lives, and by empowering them to journey towards healing themselves, and helping others.

Ruling year info

2014

Executive Director/Founder

Dr. Mary Ellen Collins

Main address

PO Box 1121

West Chester, OH 45071 USA

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EIN

46-5051214

NTEE code info

Counseling Support Groups (F60)

Christian (X20)

IRS filing requirement

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Programs and results

What we aim to solve

SOURCE: Self-reported by organization

The Motherless Daughters Ministry wants to ensure that every woman suffering the profound effects of Mother loss have access to all ministry resources, nationally and internationally. The ministry desires to make all ministry resources including books, classes, support groups, online support, and Journey Retreats as affordable as possible and at no charge for those who might be struggling financially.

Our programs

SOURCE: Self-reported by organization

What are the organization's current programs, how do they measure success, and who do the programs serve?

The Journey

This is a life-affirming program based on the book, Motherless Daughters: A Legacy of Loss 2nd edition by Hope Edelman. The book chronicles the author’s brave search for healing following the death of her mother when she was 17. It is based on hundreds of interviews with women who lost their mothers from childhood ages through adult years. Although the author’s perspective may not be factually similar to your time and situation of loss, previous classes have resulted in an emerging trend of revelations.

Let’s first start by defining a motherless daughter. A motherless daughter can be a woman who has experienced mother loss through death of her mother, either by early loss before her 20s or later loss after her 20s. A motherless daughter could be a woman who has experienced having a mother who may have quit nurturing her at an earlier age, and then she loses her mother again through death as an adult. This is defined as a double loss. A motherless daughter might be a woman who has a living mother but has never experienced her mother’s nurturing care. No matter at what point or how we become motherless daughters, our understanding and appreciation for the profound effect of mother loss leads us on an enlightened journey of fellowship with Hope Edelman’s book as a guide. We will utilize scripture and The Motherless Daughters Ministry Workbook by Mary Ellen Collins to enhance the learning experience.

The study searches for understanding of:
1. How the absence of a mother’s nurturing hand shapes a woman’s identity
2. How present-day relationships are shaped by past losses
3. How mother loss influences our style of mothering
4. How the grief of mother loss surfaces throughout our lifetime
5. How we experience living beyond our mother’s final years

Population(s) Served
Women and girls
Adults

In this program, we use the book "The Emotionally Absent Mother: A Guide to Self-Healing and Getting the Love You Missed" by Jasmin Lee Cori. The class focuses on women who have missed mothering in their lives whether their mother is deceased or living. This is called “under-mothered.” For whatever reason, she just was not there for you. We will explore what impact the absence of mothering has had on your life and explore what you can do to support your healing.

The study will:
1. Identify “Good Mother” messages and the effects of the lack of these messages.
2. Discuss the toughest things about having an emotionally absent mother.
3. Explore the many faces of the Good Mother and evaluate their impact.
4. Identify attachment patterns and explore the building blocks that have shaped your foundation.
5. Express your attachment pattern and foundation graphically.
6. Determine how the issues and concerns related to the absence of your mother have impacted your life.
7. Be able to choose to give these issues and concerns to God.
8. Explore your mother’s story.
9. Identify the abilities and blessings you have today because of her absence.
10. Create an action plan of how you will continue to heal and get the support you need

Population(s) Served
Women and girls
Adults

Forgiveness is a journey. Ever wonder why you keep forgiving the same thing or person over and over? It may be you really have not understood what you really need to forgive. What are your losses? How did the losses affect your life? Each time we lose something, it changes who we are. Our identity is different. Each loss forges a new road to forgiveness. When you can become clearer about what you need to forgive, the road becomes straighter. Each loss plays a central part of being alive and to avoid loss is to avoid being alive.

This 6-week class focuses on the following objectives:

1. Identifying the top 3 losses that still affect you today.
2. Identifying when they happened, how these losses changed your life, your feelings, and your reactions to these losses.
3. Feeling the pain associated with these loses.
4. Understanding the unfamiliar territory of the grief process.
5. Creating a journal related to feelings, beliefs, behaviors, and outcomes of anger.
6. Identifying the issues, events, and emotions that you have been holding on to in regards to your loss and making a decision about what you want to do with these.
7. Begin to forge a new identity as you peel back the layers of who you are.
8. Create a memorial to your loss.
9. Identify and seek out persons who may be companions on your journey.
10. Discover new parts of yourself that you might miss if you were to walk alone.

Population(s) Served
Adults

In this program, we use the book, "Will I Ever Be Good Enough: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers" by Dr. Karyl McBride PhD.

Narcissistic mothers teach their daughters that love is not unconditional, that it is given only when they behave in accordance with maternal expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters have difficulty overcoming feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, emotional emptiness, and sadness. They may also have a fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy romantic relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionisim and unrelenting self-criticism or to self-sabotage and frustration. This class will help you to:

1. Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life.
2. Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into overachievement or self-sabotage
3. Construct a personalized program to take control of your life and enhance your sense of self, establishing healthy boundaries with your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse.

We work to instill an understanding and realization of your mother’s condition and the effects that her narcissism has had on your life. Narcissism is often rooted in family history. It is a life long struggle to break the bonds. This understanding empowers self-trust and self-acceptance of who you are today and that YOU are good enough.

Population(s) Served
Women and girls
Adults

The Motherless Daughters Ministry Facilitator and Leader Training consists of online self study and videoconference discussions, over 30 hours of training in total.
Our Ministry goal is to reach women who have lost or missed the nurturing care of their mother and are seeking healing. Through this training, there will be more facilitators/Leaders involved in helping other Motherless Daughters heal, new sites will be developed, and we will make a difference in the lives of motherless.

Included in the training:
• over 30 hours of training, online videos and online discussions with multiple facilitator experts (valued at $5000.00)
• 250-Page Facilitator Manual (includes tool kit with exercises for working with groups) written by Mary Ellen Collins, PhD (valued at $99.00)
• All additional handouts
• Completion and professional interpretation of the Myers Briggs Type Indicator ™
• Facilitator Mentoring
• Tips and Trips for successful Facilitation (priceless!)

Population(s) Served
Women and girls
Adults

As we face life’s daily challenges, we might ask ourselves, “Why am I feeling this way? How should I respond? I’m overwhelmed, what should I do or who can I talk to?” We all have relationship issues, whether at work, home or in our community. Know that you are not alone in this journey of “womanhood.”

Motherless Daughters Ministry’s “Connections & Conversations” group can help you process your feelings and choices. We meet monthly, in an online, yet supportive setting to discuss how mother loss, whether through death, neglect or absence, has affected us as women. Motherless Daughters is a non-profit organization that hopes to serve you; join us to connect, laugh, talk and know you are not alone.

Location: Online via Zoom.us (Link will be provided upon registration)

Population(s) Served
Women and girls
Adults

The purpose of the Support Group is to create a safe place where Motherless Daughters can deepen relationships and develop a support network for continuous healing.

Population(s) Served
Women and girls
Adults

Where we work

Our results

SOURCE: Self-reported by organization

How does this organization measure their results? It's a hard question but an important one.

Number of volunteers

This metric is no longer tracked.
Totals By Year
Population(s) Served

Women and girls

Type of Metric

Outcome - describing the effects on people or issues

Direction of Success

Holding steady

Context Notes

2020 has been both a blessing and a difficulty because of the Pandemic. Although our volunteer numbers have shrank with no opportunity for onsite programming and fundraising events.

Number of returning volunteers

This metric is no longer tracked.
Totals By Year
Population(s) Served

Women and girls

Type of Metric

Input - describing resources we use

Direction of Success

Holding steady

Context Notes

While the pandemic changed volunteer opportunities, the number who have stayed with the organization and the number of new volunteers is a blessing

Number of donors lending

This metric is no longer tracked.
Totals By Year
Population(s) Served

Women and girls

Type of Metric

Other - describing something else

Direction of Success

Decreasing

Context Notes

Donations and donors decreased tremendously in 2020 while the needs of the women we serve soared.

Number of new donors

This metric is no longer tracked.
Totals By Year
Population(s) Served

Women and girls

Type of Metric

Other - describing something else

Direction of Success

Decreasing

Context Notes

There were no new donors in 2020

Number of volunteers who become donors

This metric is no longer tracked.
Totals By Year
Population(s) Served

Women and girls

Type of Metric

Other - describing something else

Direction of Success

Decreasing

Context Notes

There was 1 new donor who became a volunteer

Goals & Strategy

SOURCE: Self-reported by organization

Learn about the organization's key goals, strategies, capabilities, and progress.

Charting impact

Four powerful questions that require reflection about what really matters - results.

The Motherless Daughters Ministry aims to accomplish key financial goals including donor support, one-time, ongoing support, as well as securing grants to fund the ministry to provide resources for women.

The ministries strategies for making this happen include applying for grants, fundraising, soliciting one-time as well as ongoing donor support, and continuing to recruit volunteers willing to donate their time and resources. All board members volunteer their time.

Our organization is capable of applying for grants, we host an annual as well as bi-annual fundraising opportunities, we solicit donations online as well as by word of mouth and at our fundraisers, and we regularly recruit and sustain a broad base of volunteers who donate their time.

Motherless Daughters Ministry has been awarded a few one-time, block-type grants with which to fund projects including podcasting. We have hosted and succeeded in fundraising opportunities including a cookbook fundraiser in which we gathered 400 recipes from various ministry participants, created a cookbook by a volunteer donating their time, and then proceeded to schedule selling opportunities at local schools and churches. This event provided the necessary funds to afford non-profit status. We have also hosted yearly wine-tasting fundraisers which have been successful. We provide opportunities for donors to provide financial support and we have both one-time as well as ongoing support.

How we listen

SOURCE: Self-reported by organization

Seeking feedback from people served makes programs more responsive and effective. Here’s how this organization is listening.

done We shared information about our current feedback practices.
  • Who are the people you serve with your mission?

    We serve women 18+ who have lost or missed the nurturing care of a mother.The Motherless Daughters Ministry has been serving motherless daughters internationally for over 20 years. Some have deceased mothers. Some have living mothers. These women have many different and many similar stories. Some have lost a mother through death, some have experienced emotional absence, some have experienced mothers who have (had) narcissistic characteristics. All are motherless daughters.

  • How is your organization collecting feedback from the people you serve?

    SMS text surveys, Electronic surveys (by email, tablet, etc.), Paper surveys, Focus groups or interviews (by phone or in person), Community meetings/Town halls, Constituent (client or resident, etc.) advisory committees, Suggestion box/email, Social Media,

  • How is your organization using feedback from the people you serve?

    To identify and remedy poor client service experiences, To identify bright spots and enhance positive service experiences, To make fundamental changes to our programs and/or operations, To inform the development of new programs/projects, To identify where we are less inclusive or equitable across demographic groups, To strengthen relationships with the people we serve, To understand people's needs and how we can help them achieve their goals,

  • What significant change resulted from feedback?

    We will evaluate and listen to our clients with every program or event we offer. Many suggestions and changes are incorporated in new updates. For instance, we recently completed programming for the Journey, the Emotionally Absent Mother, and Daughters of the Narcissistic Mother. Each of these programs are either 6 or 12weekly sessions. At the end of each session, we ask for feedback in what we call a Keep/Change evaluation. Based on this feedback, we are constantly altering and considering how we use this feedback to improve the client experience. We also conduct an online survey at the conclusion of each of these programs to ask for more input and for evaluation of the facilitation staff.

  • With whom is the organization sharing feedback?

    The people we serve, Our staff, Our board, Our funders, Our community partners,

  • How has asking for feedback from the people you serve changed your relationship?

    When we receive feedback from the people we serve, they find they have a voice and they are listened to. We find that these people have become strong advocates for the ministry. Very often their feedback helps us to initiate new policies and procedures. For instance, we have always had a cancellation policy for courses or events. Because of feedback, we have instituted a voucher system so those who cancel registration outside of the allowable time period can be issued a voucher to be used within a year. This has had positive results.

  • Which of the following feedback practices does your organization routinely carry out?

    We collect feedback from the people we serve at least annually, We take steps to get feedback from marginalized or under-represented people, We aim to collect feedback from as many people we serve as possible, We take steps to ensure people feel comfortable being honest with us, We look for patterns in feedback based on demographics (e.g., race, age, gender, etc.), We look for patterns in feedback based on people’s interactions with us (e.g., site, frequency of service, etc.), We engage the people who provide feedback in looking for ways we can improve in response, We act on the feedback we receive, We tell the people who gave us feedback how we acted on their feedback, We ask the people who gave us feedback how well they think we responded,

  • What challenges does the organization face when collecting feedback?

    We don't have any major challenges to collecting feedback,

Financials

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The people, governance practices, and partners that make the organization tick.

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MOTHERLESS DAUGHTERS MINISTRY INC

Board of directors
as of 6/30/2021
SOURCE: Self-reported by organization
Board co-chair

Dr. Mary Ellen Collins

Motherless Daughters Ministry, Inc.

Term: 2014 - 2018


Board co-chair

Penny Cesco

Motherless Daughters Ministry, Inc.

Term: 2016 - 2019

Penny Cesco

Motherless Daughters Ministry

Tina Roe

Hospice of Greater Cincinnati

Gladys Bell

Retired

Lanese Layne

Private Practice

Rochelle Harkness

5/3 Bank

Board leadership practices

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  • Board orientation and education
    Does the board conduct a formal orientation for new board members and require all board members to sign a written agreement regarding their roles, responsibilities, and expectations? Yes
  • CEO oversight
    Has the board conducted a formal, written assessment of the chief executive within the past year ? Yes
  • Ethics and transparency
    Have the board and senior staff reviewed the conflict-of-interest policy and completed and signed disclosure statements in the past year? Yes
  • Board composition
    Does the board ensure an inclusive board member recruitment process that results in diversity of thought and leadership? Yes
  • Board performance
    Has the board conducted a formal, written self-assessment of its performance within the past three years? Yes

Organizational demographics

SOURCE: Self-reported; last updated 06/30/2021

Who works and leads organizations that serve our diverse communities? GuideStar partnered on this section with CHANGE Philanthropy and Equity in the Center.

Leadership

The organization's leader identifies as:

Race & ethnicity
White/Caucasian/European
Gender identity
Female, Not transgender (cisgender)
Sexual orientation
Heterosexual or Straight
Disability status
Person without a disability

Race & ethnicity

Gender identity

 

Sexual orientation

Disability

Equity strategies

Last updated: 11/05/2020

GuideStar partnered with Equity in the Center - an organization that works to shift mindsets, practices, and systems to increase racial equity - to create this section. Learn more

Data
  • We ask team members to identify racial disparities in their programs and / or portfolios.
  • We employ non-traditional ways of gathering feedback on programs and trainings, which may include interviews, roundtables, and external reviews with/by community stakeholders.
  • We have long-term strategic plans and measurable goals for creating a culture such that one’s race identity has no influence on how they fare within the organization.
Policies and processes
  • We use a vetting process to identify vendors and partners that share our commitment to race equity.
  • We seek individuals from various race backgrounds for board and executive director/CEO positions within our organization.
  • We help senior leadership understand how to be inclusive leaders with learning approaches that emphasize reflection, iteration, and adaptability.
  • We engage everyone, from the board to staff levels of the organization, in race equity work and ensure that individuals understand their roles in creating culture such that one’s race identity has no influence on how they fare within the organization.