MOTHERLESS DAUGHTERS MINISTRY INC

In this program, we use the book "The Emotionally Absent Mother: A Guide to Self-Healing and Getting the Love You Missed" by Jasmin Lee Cori. The class focuses on women who have missed mothering in their lives whether their mother is deceased or living. This is called “under-mothered.” For whatever reason, she just was not there for you. We will explore what impact the absence of mothering has had on your life and explore what you can do to support your healing.

The study will:
1. Identify “Good Mother” messages and the effects of the lack of these messages.
2. Discuss the toughest things about having an emotionally absent mother.
3. Explore the many faces of the Good Mother and evaluate their impact.
4. Identify attachment patterns and explore the building blocks that have shaped your foundation.
5. Express your attachment pattern and foundation graphically.
6. Determine how the issues and concerns related to the absence of your mother have impacted your life.
7. Be able to choose to give these issues and concerns to God.
8. Explore your mother’s story.
9. Identify the abilities and blessings you have today because of her absence.
10. Create an action plan of how you will continue to heal and get the support you need

Forgiveness is a journey. Ever wonder why you keep forgiving the same thing or person over and over? It may be you really have not understood what you really need to forgive. What are your losses? How did the losses affect your life? Each time we lose something, it changes who we are. Our identity is different. Each loss forges a new road to forgiveness. When you can become clearer about what you need to forgive, the road becomes straighter. Each loss plays a central part of being alive and to avoid loss is to avoid being alive.

This 6-week class focuses on the following objectives:

1. Identifying the top 3 losses that still affect you today.
2. Identifying when they happened, how these losses changed your life, your feelings, and your reactions to these losses.
3. Feeling the pain associated with these loses.
4. Understanding the unfamiliar territory of the grief process.
5. Creating a journal related to feelings, beliefs, behaviors, and outcomes of anger.
6. Identifying the issues, events, and emotions that you have been holding on to in regards to your loss and making a decision about what you want to do with these.
7. Begin to forge a new identity as you peel back the layers of who you are.
8. Create a memorial to your loss.
9. Identify and seek out persons who may be companions on your journey.
10. Discover new parts of yourself that you might miss if you were to walk alone.

In this program, we use the book, "Will I Ever Be Good Enough: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers" by Dr. Karyl McBride PhD.

Narcissistic mothers teach their daughters that love is not unconditional, that it is given only when they behave in accordance with maternal expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters have difficulty overcoming feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, emotional emptiness, and sadness. They may also have a fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy romantic relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionisim and unrelenting self-criticism or to self-sabotage and frustration. This class will help you to:

1. Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life.
2. Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into overachievement or self-sabotage
3. Construct a personalized program to take control of your life and enhance your sense of self, establishing healthy boundaries with your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse.

We work to instill an understanding and realization of your mother’s condition and the effects that her narcissism has had on your life. Narcissism is often rooted in family history. It is a life long struggle to break the bonds. This understanding empowers self-trust and self-acceptance of who you are today and that YOU are good enough.

The Motherless Daughters Ministry Facilitator and Leader Training consists of online self study and videoconference discussions, over 30 hours of training in total.
Our Ministry goal is to reach women who have lost or missed the nurturing care of their mother and are seeking healing. Through this training, there will be more facilitators/Leaders involved in helping other Motherless Daughters heal, new sites will be developed, and we will make a difference in the lives of motherless.

Included in the training:
• over 30 hours of training, online videos and online discussions with multiple facilitator experts (valued at $5000.00)
• 250-Page Facilitator Manual (includes tool kit with exercises for working with groups) written by Mary Ellen Collins, PhD (valued at $99.00)
• All additional handouts
• Completion and professional interpretation of the Myers Briggs Type Indicator ™
• Facilitator Mentoring
• Tips and Trips for successful Facilitation (priceless!)

As we face life’s daily challenges, we might ask ourselves, “Why am I feeling this way? How should I respond? I’m overwhelmed, what should I do or who can I talk to?” We all have relationship issues, whether at work, home or in our community. Know that you are not alone in this journey of “womanhood.”

Motherless Daughters Ministry’s “Connections & Conversations” group can help you process your feelings and choices. We meet monthly, in an online, yet supportive setting to discuss how mother loss, whether through death, neglect or absence, has affected us as women. Motherless Daughters is a non-profit organization that hopes to serve you; join us to connect, laugh, talk and know you are not alone.

Location: Online via Zoom.us (Link will be provided upon registration)

The purpose of the Support Group is to create a safe place where Motherless Daughters can deepen relationships and develop a support network for continuous healing.